Getting to know you: Trish Barry-Relph

Co-Parenting Matters has a very diverse inter-disciplinary network, united by a common child-centric and shared-parenting ethos. Individually and collectively they’re dedicated, not only to their clients, but to the holistic improvement and reform of social and family support services.

In a series of short blogs, we’re going to telll you a little more about the principle members of the network.

Let’s start with Trish:


Why do you do what you do?

Strained intimate partner relationships are often a source of emotional anxiety and distress. Where there are children with an affectionate bond and attachment to both their parents they can become distressed by the on-going conflict. I do what I do because I’ve seen enough damaged and unhappy children grow into disfunctional and distressed adults. It becomes a multi-generational issue and pattern too often. I’m passionate about helping all family members develop more effective relationships, so they recover from mistakes or problems and don’t succumb to them, so they all thrive.

How do you do it?

I specialize in assessments of parents struggling to resolve the conflict in their relationship and have concerns about how this is impacting on their children. Child development research cites substantial evidence about children not being able to attain their psychological potential when they are unable to develop and maintain meaningful relationships with both their parents whether the parents live together or not (Kelly & Lamb: 2000).

I offer tailored bespoke assessments of parents, stepparents, and support grandparents. I provide co-parents who are divorced with systemic co-parenting therapeutic sessions from within a multi modality perspective with a view to supporting them towards developing a co-parenting alliance in the best interests of their children. I offer parents therapeutic parenting support sessions. I provide assessments and therapy to children and adolescents affected by parental relationship distress.

What does success look like?

In my experience parents who have been proactive in working together to promote the best interests of their children have reported making significant reductions in the human and financial costs associated with protracted litigation. Much of the emotional distress experienced by children is mitigated at a much earlier stage and can reduce time frames towards a therapeutic resolution of family conflict.

I have extensive experience as an ISW / Expert Witness in Children’s Act Proceedings in private law and devote 50% of my time to this work.

What I Offer

Areas of specialization:

  • Separation and divorce
  • High conflict
  • Parental alignment, estrangement or alienation
  • Trauma
  • PTSD
  • Abuse
  • Couple counselling
  • Bereavement and loss
  • Depression
  • Parenting support
  • Therapeutic mediation
  • Children’s support
  • Adolescents and young adult support
  • Sexual abuse and rape
  • Eating disorders
  • Emotional abuse
  • Pregnancy and birth
  • Post birth bonding and support
  • Couples counselling
  • Family counselling
  • Systemic co-parenting conciliation
  • Anxiety
  • Panic attacks
  • Psychosis
  • Reunification therapy

What do you do when you’re not working?

My profession is more of a vocation and there’s so much to do, so I seldom relax completely. But when I do I like to exercise by the river and in the countryside, walking or cycling with friends or family and I love to travel. Nothing broadens the mind like immersing yourself in other cultures and I was in Israel and Kenya before the pandemic struck. I participate actively in poetry and social dreaming groups and love Celtic music. I’m also a proud allotmenteer. You haven’t truly lived until you’ve cooked a meal from ingredients that were in the ground half an hour earlier.

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